4) Now, here is the hard part: tell us your part in it. What inside of you causes you to get hurt? Are you selfish, self-centered, self-seeking, dishonest, or frightened?
But you may say, "I have no part. I am the victim." If you say that, you drink the poison willingly. If you can see your part, you can cast it in the fire.
For me, my part is a. I am self-seeking (I want to be accepted and recognized for my merit), and b. I am frightened (I fear the audience can reject me, which I mistakenly believe makes me less valuable because they don't see my value).
I have decided to cast those things in the fire.
1) I do not need their validation. I need to find an audience that sees my proposal's validity and merit within the terms of my reality and those like me. If I need to go back to the drawing board on how to communicate it, fine. But I won't compromise it to fit in the hat.
2) I don't need value in the currency they are limiting their judgement of me to. I need to see my value in terms of a higher power's dollars and cents. Sometimes people tell you no because your higher power protects you from them, not the other way around.
So now I present my ideas knowing my argument is valid, my credentials have merit, and I have value the way I was wonderfully made (completely independent of who on this Earth judges it).
I cast it in the fire. I may wear the hat again, but the poison has been burned off!
Now you try it in the space below: